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How will you spend the longest day of the year?

Today is the Summer Solstice in the northern hemisphere. It occurred at 8:54am PDT, to be exact! It’s the first day of summer and the longest day of the year, which begs to be marked in some special way, doesn’t it? You could:

  • Eat some strawberries! June’s full moon is known as the strawberry full moon, and in Sweden they would eat the first strawberries of the season to mark the first day of summer
  • Head to the beach, a lake or just your backyard or roof to watch the sunset! You can find sunset times for your location at the Farmer’s Almanac.
  • Find some great summer reading material. Two of my favorite beach read authors are Elin Hilderbrand and Carl Hiaasen
  • Make a big blender full of margaritas and celebrate!

I’ll be doing all of the above 🙂 But whatever you do, try to mark the day in some special way!

“There’s just so many summers baby, just so many springs.”

-Don Henley

– Jenna

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eBooks are expensive for libraries

Blogger and book lover Modern Mrs. Darcy, posted today about how expensive eBooks are for libraries. I’ve often wondered how the process works, and it seems that it really doesn’t:

Should I have known this already? Probably. But did I? Nope. This spring I’ve done several events with librarians all over the country, who all echoed the same sentiment: the current model of lending ebooks to patrons is not sustainable, because the costs libraries pay to offer them are substantial. But patrons love ebooks.

And if you really want to go down the rabbit hole, she points to a Good Reader article that explains the whole model in detail.

When libraries put new paper books on their shelves, they simply buy the book. When libraries put ebooks into circulation, they don’t just buy the book. They buy ebooks at a significant markup, averaging $25 per copy in 2018, and they can only use them for a limited time before they are required to pay to renew the license. Some publishers don’t sell to libraries at all; they want every individual reader to purchase every book.

For more info, check out this breakdown of how much libraries pay for ebooks from publishers. It’s not the most current—and one top publisher just announced changes to their pricing model yesterday—but it’s thorough.

Food for thought. Library eBooks have always seemed like the best of all options, but it sounds like a monthly trip to your local branch might be better for the long term health of your library.

– Jenna

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Become a better judge of people (and see yourself more clearly)

A few years ago, when I was looking to brush up on my skills in interviewing job candidates, I read a book called Good People: The Only Leadership Decision That Really Matters by Anthony Tjan.

The book’s suggestion is that we can change the way we think about goodness in order to become better judges of people and create more goodness in ourselves, in others, and in our organizations. But even outside of the workplace, you can learn to become a better judge of the people around you, and also to assess the extent to which you are meeting your own expectations in these areas.

Tjan suggests asking yourself specific questions about someone (or reflecting on your own qualities) that relate to core values that combine to form this sense of goodness: namely truth, compassion and wholeness. Here are the questions:

  1. Do you believe this person is self-aware? (truth)

  2. Does this person feel authentic or obsequious? (truth)

  3. What is the talk-to-listen ratio? (compassion)

  4. Is this person an energy giver or taker? (compassion and wholeness)

  5. Is this person likely to act or react to a task? (compassion)

  6. How does this person treat someone (s)he doesn’t know? (compassion)

  7. What is their spouse or partner like? (truth)

  8. Is there an element of struggle in the person’s history? How does (s)he respond to setbacks? (compassion)

  9. What has this person been reading? (wholeness)

  10. Would you ever want to go on a long car ride with this person? (truth and compassion)

  11. Is this person comfortable with idiosyncrasies? (wholeness)

  12. Is the person multidimensional or multidisciplinary? (wholeness)

What do you think? How would you answer these questions about yourself, or about the people around you? Do you have a favorite question from the list?  As a book lover, I’m always interested in what people are reading, so number 9 is high on my list, along with envisioning taking a long car ride with someone. But they all seem like great ways to dig deeper into someone’s personality.

Let me know if you try it, and what you learn!

– Jenna

 

 

 

 

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The (successful) formula of the sick system

Every once in a while, I come across a piece of writing that describes an aspect of everyday life SO PERFECTLY that it stops me in my tracks. It names an emotion, a pattern or a situation that I (like most people) have never really thought about head on. But it clicks so easily into the web of our human experience that once it’s been identified, we can’t imagine a time before we knew about it. Lots of examples come to mind (gaslighting being one of them).

Are you ready for a new one?

A few years ago, I happened upon a link to an article by a blogger named issendai, which described the phenomenon of the Sick System, and how both individuals and organizations alike create sick systems to keep people tied to them indefinitely:

So you want to keep your lover or your employee close. Bound to you, even. You have a few options. You could be the best lover they’ve ever had, kind, charming, thoughtful, competent, witty, and a tiger in bed. You could be the best workplace they’ve ever had, with challenging work, rewards for talent, initiative, and professional development, an excellent work/life balance, and good pay. But both of those options demand a lot from you. Besides, your lover (or employee) will stay only as long as she wants to under those systems, and you want to keep her even when she doesn’t want to stay. How do you pin her to your side, irrevocably, permanently, and perfectly legally?

You create a sick system.

The sick system has four basic rules:

Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think. Thinking is dangerous. If people can stop and think about their situation logically, they might realize how crazy things are.

Rule 2: Keep them tired. Exhaustion is the perfect defense against any good thinking that might slip through. Fixing the system requires change, and change requires effort, and effort requires energy that just isn’t there. No energy, and your lover’s dangerous epiphany is converted into nothing but a couple of boring fights.

This is also a corollary to keeping them too busy to think. Of course you can’t turn off anyone’s thought processes completely—but you can keep them too tired to do any original thinking. The decision center in the brain tires out just like a muscle, and when it’s exhausted, people start making certain predictable types of logic mistakes. Found a system based on those mistakes, and you’re golden.

Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved. Make them love you if you can, or if you’re a company, foster a company culture of extreme loyalty. Otherwise, tie their success to yours, so if you do well, they do well, and if you fail, they fail. If you’re working in an industry where failure isn’t a possibility (the government, utilities), establish a status system where workers do better or worse based on seniority. (This also works in bad relationships if you’re polyamorous.)

Also note that if you set up a system in which personal loyalty and devotion are proof of your lover’s worthiness as a person, you can make people love you. Or at least think they love you. In fact, any combination of intermittent rewards plus too much exhaustion to consider other alternatives will induce people to think they love you, even if they hate you as well.

Rule 4: Reward intermittently. Intermittent gratification is the most addictive kind there is. If you know the lever will always produce a pellet, you’ll push it only as often as you need a pellet. If you know it never produces a pellet, you’ll stop pushing. But if the lever sometimes produces a pellet and sometimes doesn’t, you’ll keep pushing forever, even if you have more than enough pellets (because what if there’s a dry run and you have no pellets at all?). It’s the motivation behind gambling, collectible cards, most video games, the Internet itself, and relationships with crazy people.

Is any of this sounding familiar to you? Have you experienced this kind of system? You may think that you are savvy enough to avoid this kind of relationship in your personal life. But in professional settings, it is INCREDIBLY easy to get caught up in a sick system and not realize it for years, especially when it is tied to your livelihood. They are everywhere.

The article goes on to explain how sick systems are so simple to sustain for the people behind them, and the tactics they use:

Keep the crises rolling. Incompetence is a great way to do this: If the office system routinely works badly or the controlling partner routinely makes major mistakes, you’re guaranteed ongoing crises. Poor money management works well, too. So does being in an industry where the clients are guaranteed to be volatile and flaky, or preferring friends who are themselves in perpetual crisis. You can also institutionalize regular crises: Workers in the Sea Org, the elite wing of Scientology, must exceed the previous week’s production every single week or face serious penalties. Because this is impossible, it guarantees regular crises as the deadline approaches.

Regular crises perform two functions: They keep people too busy to think, and they provide intermittent reinforcement. After all, sometimes you win—and when you’ve mostly lost, a taste of success is addictive.

But why wouldn’t people eventually realize that the crises are a permanent state of affairs? Because you’ve explained them away with an explanation that gives them hope.

Things will be better when... I get a new job. I’m mean to you now because I’m so stressed, but I’m sure that will go away when I’m not working at this awful place.

The production schedule is crazy because the client is nuts. We just need to get through this cycle, then we’ll have a new client, and they’ll be much better.

She has a bad temper because she just started with a new therapist. She’ll be better when she settles in.

Now, the first person isn’t actually looking for a job. (They’re too stressed to fill out applications.) The second industry always has another crazy client, because all the clients are crazy. (Or better yet, because the company is set up to destroy the workflow and make the client look crazy.) The third person has been with her “new” therapist for a year. (But not for three years! Or five!) But the explanation sounds plausible, and every now and then the person has a good day or a production cycle goes smoothly. Intermittent reinforcement + hope = “Someday it will always be like this.” Perpetual crises mean the person is too tired to notice that it has never been like this for long.

If you’re interested in diving deeper, I highly recommend checking out the Sick Systems article in its entirety.

But wait, there’s more! In a follow up article, issendai lists the personal qualities that can keep ANYONE in a sick system. And they’re not what you might think!

This is where I’m supposed to follow up with What to Do to Fix the World, but the answer is: nothing. You can’t fix a sick system from within unless you have power, and you can’t fix a sick system from outside, period. You can’t compel people to leave. You can convince them to leave, but the moment that convinces them is individual, like enlightenment striking a monk because his master made a joke about a spade. And when a stuck person chooses to leave, it will be long, long, long after they should have gotten out.

So instead I offer you a list:

Qualities That Keep You in a Sick System
  • Loyalty
  • Patience
  • A strong work ethic
  • Optimism
  • Self-sacrifice
  • A need to be useful to others
  • Forgiveness
  • Farsightedness
  • Trust
  • Hope

You don’t need to lose these qualities to get out. But if you’re stuck and trying to figure out what’s keeping you in, remember that people rarely get stuck because of their vices. They’re usually caught by their virtues.

That last part always hits me like a ton of bricks, how about you? And what lessons can we take from all of this? For me, the most important lessons are the simplest (but often the hardest to master):

  1. Trust your gut
  2. Trust your gut
  3. Trust your gut

 

– Jenna

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Getcha some cheap notebooks

I’ve bought enough fancy notebooks and journals in my life to outfit a small stationery store. And most of them stay empty. It seems like the nicer the notebook, the more preciously you treat what you should write in it (which is basically…nothing). And I’m not the only one…

 

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Today I was sorting through a bunch of papers and things that I’d written in the past few years, and I realized the ONLY notebooks I write regularly in are…

THESE!

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Composition books are really the best kind of notebook. They’re cheap. Really cheap. They travel well. You can buy them at any grocery store. They’re not pretty, which is a good thing. You can write anything in them: good writing, bad writing, terrible writing, sketches of ponies….it doesn’t matter. YOU JUST GET IT ON THE PAGE. It’s the first step. And a cheap-ass composition notebook gets you there with a lot less fuss.

Do you suffer from the blank notebook syndrome too? Try picking up a STACK of these bad boys for the price of one of those fancy little numbers with the leather cover they sell at Barnes & Noble. Let me know how it goes!

– Jenna

 

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It’s important to like what you like

They feel like, “Oh, If I’m paying attention to something and no one else is talking about it, I guess it’s not important.” And the truth is totally the opposite. The things that you are noticing that other people are overlooking, those are the most important; those are the things that make you a person….the culture’s never gonna push that, you gotta push that yourself.

-Rob Walker, author of The Art of Noticing

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I’ll be glad when…

In my first full-time job out of college, I had a boss named Stanley. It was just the two of us in the office. I was still pretty wet behind the ears, and he was an old school entrepreneur in his mid-70s who didn’t like to take orders and could barely operate a computer. We were a great pair and I adored him.

When we had a particularly busy or crazy period at work, he’d always say, “I don’t want to wish my life away, but I’ll be glad when this week is over.”

He’s gone now; he passed away in 2010. And every time I catch myself saying something like “I’ll be glad when this is over,” I stop and think about Stanley.

– Jenna

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Spend out

June is marching on and we’re almost halfway done with the year! And if you’re like me, you’re ready to roll into summer with a list of projects as long as your arm, a towering stack of books to read and a lengthy Netflix queue. You (also like me) might be feeling a bit stretched thin and overwhelmed by what’s on your plate. And that’s just the things we WANT to do, not the things we have to do.

What if, for the remainder of the year, you decided not to take on any new projects, buy any new books, listen to any new podcasts, or add anything to your Netflix queue? What if you devote the rest of the year to SPENDING OUT what you already have? Read the stack of magazines piling up by your couch. Act on the ideas that you’ve had in your head since January. Grab your Saturday tub and cross off all your household to-dos before planning anything new. Use your good perfume and burn the candles you’ve been keeping for a special occasion.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I think it’s a great idea, and I’d love to do it. But  I’m a collector by nature, and I love to compile lists of things I’m curious about and build giant to-do lists and caches of reading material (my sister will also confirm that I am notorious for buying new candles and not burning them, to her eternal frustration).

So how do I hold myself accountable to this kind of plan? How do you turn off the fire hose so that you can actually drink the water you’ve already got? I’d love to hear your suggestions!

– Jenna

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A big ol’ bunch

Sometimes the best way to add some simple luxury to your life is to buy a BUNCH of something inexpensive. It can be really visually pleasing and give you a feeling of abundance. Also: one breaks, gets lost or wears out? No problem, you’ve got 11 more! If you’re looking to get a big ‘ol bunch of something, here are a few of my favorites:

Pretty pencils or pens in a cup
buncha-pencils

A row of books with beautiful covers
buncha-books

Big stack of fresh kitchen towels
buncha-towels

100 matching hangers!
buncha-hangers

A trio of delicious gins (if you want to become a minor expert in martinis)
buncha-gins

There’s a million other things you can get a big ‘ol bunch of to enjoy, like magazines, candles, house plants or notebooks. Do you have a favorite?

– Jenna

 

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It’s quiz time!

We’re all creative in our own way. And if you’re in the mood for a fun quiz (which I ALWAYS am), check out Adobe’s My Creative Type. It’s a beautiful, fun and interactive quiz that aims to identify your specific kind of creativity and also give you tips on which other creative types to partner with in order to maximize your efforts.

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Here’s a bit of the description for my type, The DREAMER:

The world is a place of beauty and magic in the eyes of a DREAMER. Where others see facts and figures, you see symbols, metaphors, and hidden meanings.

You’re deeply emotional and intuitive, with a vivid imagination—the quintessential idealist and romantic. The inner world is always where you’ve felt most at home. You’re happy to roam your mental landscape of thoughts, emotions, and fantasies for hours on end.

You’re naturally drawn to express your inner world through literary pursuits, music, and the visual arts. Think of yourself as the “magical realist” of the creative types: like the literary masters of that genre, you naturally infuse your everyday life with the beauty and wonder of the imagination.

That feels pretty spot on to me! It’s always so gratifying to read something that so perfectly captures a part of your personality you’ve never been able to put into words yourself.

You can take the quiz at https://mycreativetype.com. If you do, tell me what your type is in the comments. I’d love to know!